Reality Reboot
Break free from limiting beliefs,
reset your mindset, and create lasting positive change
in your personal and professional life.
Memberships activate on Wednesday 9th July.
Imagine your life 6 months
from now...
What would your ideal future look like?
Is it the same as right now?
Wouldn't it be great to wipe the
slate clean and start again...
And take the step to make your goals actually happen.
T
If you're fed up of this...
Living by Others’ Expectations
Avoiding Change
Saying Yes to Everything, Leaving No Room for Yourself
Focusing on the Bad in Every Good
Getting Held Back by Challenging Situations
Letting Fear Control You
Holding Back Laughter
Feeling Stuck
And would like this...
Living on Your Terms
Welcoming Opportunities
Saying No to Make Room for the Bigger Yes
Walking to Your Own Beat
Feeling Happy
Discovering the Silver Lining in Every Situation
Transforming Fear into Motivation
Feeling in Control of Your Life
It's time to press reset and live the life you really want to lead!
Meet Victoria...
"In 2018, I found myself living what many would consider a "successful" life - raising three kids, working in a corporate job, and ticking the boxes of modern achievement. Yet beneath the surface, I felt deeply unfulfilled. My job consumed most of my time and energy, leaving little room for the things that truly mattered to me: spending quality time with my children, prioritising my health, or even pursuing my passions like music.
I was stuck in a cycle where life felt "just okay," and I knew there had to be more.
Everything changed when I declared a bold vision for my life - one that felt wildly out of reach at the time. I envisioned living in a rural cottage, surrounded by nature, with my children free to explore, chickens in the garden, and a life centred on creativity, healing, and helping others.
Fast forward two years, and that vision became my reality. I left my corporate job, moved to a beautiful mortgage-free cottage on 12 acres in Ireland, and completely redefined my life.
Today, I enjoy deep, meaningful relationships, more time with my kids, a thriving creative project in music, and a profound sense of fulfilment. My health is better than ever, my stress is under control, and I’m living proof that it’s possible to create a life you love.
Reality Reboot is your invitation to do the same. It has been designed to help you uncover your deepest desires, reimagine your life, and take the steps to make it a reality. If you feel stuck, unfulfilled, or ready for a change, get your membership today and start building the life you truly deserve."
Reality Reboot will help you truly live your best life...
You'll live by your own values, embracing opportunities that align with what matters and saying no to what doesn’t. With enthusiasm and fun, you take on challenges and add joy to everyday moments. Even when life gets hectic, you remain positive and stay on track.
You'll choose joy over stress, seeing the bright side even in tough situations. Obstacles become chances to grow, and fear is used as motivation to move forward. You'll face life head-on, always striving to become stronger.
Laughter will come easily as you find humour in everyday moments. You'll live each day with intention, guided by values that fulfil you. Purpose and positivity will be at the heart of everything you do.
You'll design and create a new life that differs from your current reality. You'll experience the change in your life that you actually want to achieve. You'll make actionable changes which will positively impact your life.
This is the formula to successfully Rebooting your Reality
Let me show you how we're going to take you from where you are now -
to where you want to be. Here's what you'll achieve:
Introduction and Foundational Principles
In week 1 following your introduction, we'll look at managing change - which involves navigating the comfort, stretch, and panic zones.
In this module we'll also learn how to stay grounded during challenging times in the stretch zone, breath work can help regulate the nervous system.
Embracing the law of polarities means recognising that success and failure are interconnected, and true progress requires engaging with both. Ultimately, there is no failure, only feedback - every setback offers an opportunity to learn and grow.
Life Audit
This module focuses on achieving balance and fulfilment through the Wheel of Life framework.
It involves assessing your current experience, dream lining your ideal life, and identifying what you're tolerating and how to create better. It explores the distinction between commitment and attachment, encouraging you to commit to meaningful changes.
We then begin practising change making through small, incremental improvements to elevate your life satisfaction. You are guided to examine old rules that you live by and create a personalised new rule book to support your aspirations.
Understanding & Managing Emotions
Your focus in this module will be on understanding and managing triggers. It involves identifying those events and situations that create emotional overwhelm, recognising their impact, and learning to manage your emotions positively. We also explore the importance of fully experiencing emotions, using the "what resists persists" concept.
You will explore negative emotions through structured tools like Emotional Assertiveness training. You will be guided to handle triggers and challenges by choosing alternative actions, using the A-B-C model of emotion regulation.
The module will also help you build constructive daily habits such as intention setting and daily reflections to solidify learning and habits.
Creating Confidence
The challenge in this module will be to focus on building confidence through actionable strategies and self-discovery. It includes celebrating wins to boost self-belief and embracing "The Power of Yet" to foster growth.
You will explore your strengths, practice "acting as if" to connect to your confident self (we all have one in there somewhere!), and engage with tools to help you uncover your talents and gifts.
Visualisation exercises, such as Imagining Confidence, help you embody and connect with your potential.
Building Self-Worth
In this module you'll explore the balance of self-care (Yin and Yang) and its importance, recognising that you can't pour from an empty cup.
It includes identifying personal drivers, noticing areas of misalignment, and reflecting on what truly makes your heart sing. Through a Personal SWOT analysis, you will embrace strengths and accept weaknesses.
The module addresses the inner critic, encouraging self-compassion by focusing on evaluating behaviour rather than self, to overcome self-judgement and ready you for transformation.
Transforming Relationships
Your focus in this module will be on improving relationships by mapping a network of connections to better understand the social dynamics and relationships in your life.
It introduces the PAC Model (Parent-Adult-Child) to explore relationship roles. You will address difficult relationships through projection exercises and explore releasing and forgiving others using clearing and healing techniques.
The module includes mental rehearsal to build positive neural pathways, a review of the A-B-C model for emotion regulation during conflict, and connection-building activities to foster warmth and rapport.
Unlocking your new vision
In this module you'll focus on aligning life priorities and goals.
It begins with exercises to visualise what matters most to you, followed by setting a Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG) to inspire bold action.
Through the Dare to Declare process, you will identify and address subconscious blocks that are holding you back. Using story mapping and rewiring exercises, you'll rewrite limiting beliefs.
Busting Through Blocks and Resistance
The purpose of this module is to focus on overcoming resistance and aligning with success. It includes integration and mind mapping to explore internal conflicts, alongside language hacking techniques to shift resistance.
You will engage in techniques designed to help you flush out and release any psychological or emotional blocks and limitations that are keeping you in struggle, procrastination or static.
By clearing emotional clutter and learning to cleanse your energy, you will let go of resistance and limiting beliefs, allowing the change in your life that you have wanted to now flow easily to you.
Activating your New Energy
Our final module focuses on structured goal action planning using the coaching framework to break down objectives, identify resources and complete your goals.
It will encourage you to step into your HERO superpower, robustly engage with your transformed state and use neurological rewiring techniques to collapse the distance between your goal and your current state.
We'll also equip you to handle any fear that creeps back up as you navigate your change path and train you in how to maintain constructive mindset so that you confidently turn challenges into possibilities and drive forward with momentum for the long term.
And this is how we're going to make it happen...
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Your Award Winning Coach
Dr Victoria Stakelum has lived the corporate life and has successfully made the switch to live a life aligned with her ghappiness.
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High-Impact Modules
Rooted in NLP Coaching: Focused on a specific shift to upgrade your beliefs and behaviours
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Monthly Q&A
Get your questions answered, explore what came up for you in the module and connect with others on the path.
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Live Monthly Spotlight Coaching
Receive high impact NLP coaching, clear blocks in real time and go deep on specific themes.
5
Integration Tools
Worksheets, prompts, audio activations, and simple rituals to embed changes into your everyday reality.
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Community Support
Optional - but available.
Stay connected with others who are walking the same journey.
"You deserve to live a life you love and Reality Reboot has been created to help you achieve that!"
Dr Victoria Stakelum, Founder of The Success Smith
testimonials
This is what other clients have already experienced...
"Recommend her fully"
"Victoria is intuitive, skilled at her craft, and an all around wonderful human being, who has lived corporate life to the fullest, highest levels, and helps you to thrive as you search your own fulfilment. Recommend her fully!"
- Adriana Q
"Full of knowledge"
"Dr. Victoria Stakelum has the ability to communicate and explain complex concepts in an easy way. She is full of knowledge and very authentic, truly inspirational woman."
- Joanna G
"Very experienced in her field"
"I would really recommend Victoria to anyone looking for help. A very relaxed none judgemental approach and obviously very experienced in her field"
- Keeley
Testimonial
Hey, I'm Sam!
“In the beginning of Reality Reboot I wanted to work on my confidence and not be as dependant on my husband.
I feel I have achieved that… It really made me look at myself, and how I'm reacting to things, and how I perceive things, and how I'm interpreting things. And that there is another way. It helped me become healthier emotionally and more aware of who I am, how I am reacting to situations, how much blame I was carrying that was informing my life. By just looking at everything in a different way it changes things. It helps all your relationships.
I feel I discovered that I am brave, strong, fun, attractive, worthy.
The real lesson I learned was that rewriting your life (script) is an ongoing process and it needs to be practiced everyday.”
Here's all the value that's waiting for you, so you can get started on making a lasting positive change in your personal and professional life.
Unlock your access to Reality Reboot
Select the plan that fits your needs best
Annual Membership
£1,290
One-time Payment
One time payment - done and dusted.
2 months free plus extra bonus: Money Mindset Blockbuster.
Immediate membership activation and access to all content.
Monthly Membership
£129
Monthly Payments
Monthly payments via direct debit.
Membership activates on 9th July.
Access to new module each month for 9 months.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What are the dates I need to know about Reality Reboot?
Membership activates on Wednesday 9th July. If you have annual membership you will receive immediate access.
Spotlight Coaching Sessions take place on the 2nd Wednesday of Every Month at 1.30pm BST for 1 hour.
Q&A Calls take place on the last Thursday of each month at 1.30pm BST for 1 hour.
You'll receive emails and reminders in advance of each session.
How do I know if this is for me?
This is for you if you're feeling stuck or frustrated in one or many areas of your life and you’re keen to upgrade your experience of life.
You might not know exactly what it is that is going wrong or quite what you need, but you know that something needs to change.
You’re unsure of exactly how and where to start and you’d love a supportive, guiding presence in your life to help you figure out how to make change happen and gently hold you to account for making that change when it feels difficult or scary.
What's unique about Reality Reboot?
The delivery of expertise and the breadth of knowledge you’ll receive can be devoured quickly for immediate action or taken entirely at your own pace - either way if you complete the work, you will see a change.
The beauty of Reality Reboot is that:
You can ask any question(s) relating to any issue you need to work through or that's been blocking you in a live session directly with Dr Victoria Stakelum.
In parallel, you’ll be proactively guided through a transformational change process that will result in major change, experienced gently.
The best bit is that you’ll have access to Dr Victoria Stakelum, a multi-award winning psychologist and mindset coach, whose clients rave about her insight, kindness and ability to get the best from them. You can hear from her clients here.
How does it work?
This is an online course with 9 modules which will be delivered via The Success Smith app, this can be downloaded here.
If you have annual membership, once you've enrolled you will have access to the entire course.
If you have a monthly membership you will get access to the first module on 9th July, thereafter each month unlocks a new module.
There will be additional support opportunities such as a Spotlight Coaching Session and a live Q&A with Dr Victoria. These dates will be communicated to you via the app and through emails.
How long will it take for me to see changes in my life?
You will identify profound insights from the outset of your journey in the Reality Reboot process.
From there, change can occur extremely rapidly, for some, as soon as days or weeks after beginning the process. We work at a pace that is right for you and finds the balance of stretching you without throwing you into extreme discomfort as you let go of what hasn’t served you and begin building your new world, so everyone’s journey is different. However if rapid change is what you are hoping for, it is absolutely available to you.
The philosophy behind Reality Reboot is rooted in the belief that lasting change begins with clarity and empowerment.
By challenging outdated narratives and limiting beliefs, the programme fosters self-awareness and equips individuals with practical tools to realign their mindset, take control of their reality, and unlock their full potential. It’s about transforming the way you think, so you can transform the way you live.